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Wedding Etiquette Before the Big Day

Gift Requests: Sorry, but it simply isn't polite to include gift registry information with your wedding invitation. In fact, this information should never be volunteered to your guests unless you are asked directly. It's better to let your close family members know where you're registered so that they're prepared to answer the question. And, of course, you should certainly let anyone know who asks.

 

Charity Donation Requests: Magnanimous as it may seem, it also isn't proper wedding etiquette to request guests outright to make a donation to your favorite charity in lieu of gifts. Again, wedding etiquette dictates that this type of request be made only if asked. The same goes for cash solicitations.

 

Attendants' Gifts: It is important that both the bride and groom remember their faithful attendants as the wedding day approaches. Best men and maids of honor, especially, are expected to shoulder a lot of responsibility before and during the wedding. Express your thanks with tasteful and thoughtful gifts. Day spa gift certificates and spa-themed gift sets make lovely gifts for frazzled bridal attendants, and it's fitting to give groomsmen an accessory to wear during the ceremony, such as cufflinks or a nice wristwatch.

 

Wedding Etiquette During the Ceremony

Bridal Party Gender and Attire: You need not feel obligated to have the same number of attendants on each side of the bridal party. By the same token, nowhere is it written that the bride may choose only female attendants and the groom only male. It is proper wedding etiquette, however, to dress members of the same gender correspondingly -- it just looks odd to have the groom's best woman decked out in a penguin suit. And need we explain what is appropriate male bridal attendants' attire?

 

Giving Away the Bride: In many Western cultures and religions, it is traditional for the bride's father to "give her away." While this may seem an antiquated notion in these days of female independence, this tradition still holds sentimental appeal for many. This isn't to say that the bride can't choose to be escorted by someone else. If she was raised by her mother, older sibling or grandparent, it is perfectly appropriate for that person to walk her down the aisle.

 

Wedding Etiquette During the Reception

Cake in the Face: We're not sure why it became so popular for the bride and groom to smash cake into each other's faces during the cake-cutting ceremony. While it may seem like an expression of youthful exuberance, many of your guests will find it distasteful, and you may end up soiling your expensive -- and possibly rented -- attire, not to mention ruining a potentially expensive make-up job. So skip this bit of tomfoolery and feed the cake to each other nicely.

 

Garter Toss: Who decided it was appropriate wedding etiquette to have the bride perform a burlesque show for all of her friends and family on her wedding day? Having the groom remove a garter from her thigh (some grooms even use their teeth), may appeal to remarkably fit exhibitionists, but really isn't appropriate behavior in front of all of your guests. Save the shenanigans for the honeymoon.

 

Please send us any additional wedding etiquette tips you think we should mention at erin@weddingsthatwork.com.



 

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